Why I’ve Been in a Reading/Blogging Slump.

lifeupdate

Hey!

There are a few things I want to write about and the main thing being why I’ve been in a reading/blogging slump. This may get long! Right at the start of May (actually April 30) I was told that I may lose my job. Since that day I have been beyond stressed about what was going to happen with my job and what I was going to do, because we just bought a house in a new city four hours away from family! I currently do not have a license, I never got one as a teen for whatever reason. So it would make finding a new job a struggle. I currently work from home. I also have major social anxiety and talking to people I don’t know kind of freaks me out, so I was kind of just going crazy. What was I going to do? I can’t drive anywhere. I can’t talk to people. It was just a lot to deal with. FYI: I am going to start working on finally getting my license. It’s time!

When I found out about my job, I pretty much cried for a long time. Then I ignored everything happening and read book after book after book to escape that reality. That’s why in May I read so many books and got so many reviews posted. I was ignoring what was happening. I was also waiting to see what was going to happen with my job, because my boss told me he would let me know what is going on in June. Once June hit, I was so nervous waiting to see what my boss was going to tell me. So I stressed out so much and impatiently waiting for that email about what was going to happen. It finally happened 2-3 weeks ago and he told me I could work part-time. So that’s what is happening right now. I am still working, but part-time. It was a little bit of a relief to know I still had a job, but also a downer because it’s part-time. I also don’t feel secure with this job now. I feel like it could still end at any moment and that’s stressful and weighing on me a lot.

Another thing is that this week my work computer crashed and I lost all of my files. I lost all of the stuff that I use for my job. I now have to work on redoing everything. I had so many spreadsheets and starting over really sucks. I had five years worth of work stuff on that computer and a lot of it I use every day. So I’ve been annoyed with that and trying to remember the most important things and a way to start again. The last backup for some things I have date back to December, but the most important things that I use daily I didn’t have saved somewhere else. So now I am stressing about that on top of the work stuff.

My personal computer seems like it’s on it’s last leg too and I need a new computer. The problem is, buying a new computer. Computers are expensive! Now that I am working part-time, we are trying not to spend money as often. I need a new computer at some point, because I really don’t want to risk losing all of my personal stuff; like thousands of pictures and music. UGH. I want a brand new hard drive/tower (I have plenty of computer monitors so I don’t need that), but the hubby thinks we should get refurbished for now. I don’t want to do that, because I don’t want to risk a refurbished computer breaking down a year or two later. So I’ve just been stressed about that too.

I’ve been in this weird place in my head lately and I don’t like it. A lot of it has to do with work. Some of it has to do with the fact that I can’t spend money or do things like I was before. It is now all about saving, saving, saving. I hardly ever leave the house, which usually I’m fine with but lately not really. I want to go do things or buy things, but I can’t because we’re trying not to spend money until we figure out the job situation and what happens in the future with that. I was excited about buying this house, because we would get to fix it up how we wanted it and make it ours. We haven’t really been able to do anything with our house because of all of this. It’s frustrating and annoying and I hate it. I’m not even that excited about owning a house anymore, which is really sad!!

I feel like maybe I’m complaining, but honestly, I’m not the type of person that complains about anything. So this is all new and weird and I don’t like it. I’ve always been an “it is what it is” type person. I usually go with the flow and whatever happens, happens. I’m usually always happy and good vibes. The fact that I haven’t been that person in months sucks! This is not who I am and I don’t like it. I want to get back to my old self, but I’m not entirely sure how to get there. Even writing that line is making me start to cry. It’s so damn sad! I’ve never been like this before and I don’t know what this even is. I just want things to go back to normal, but I don’t think that can happen. At least not right now. I think our “normal” has changed too.

So with all of that being said, I haven’t been blogging much and I haven’t been reading much this month. It’s not because I don’t want to, believe me, I want to! My mind is drowning in other things/thoughts and I can’t seem to figure out a balance between everything. So instead I just do mindless stuff, like watch TV. I’ve been catching up on my DVRed shows and shows I’ve been wanting to watch on Hulu/Netflix that I haven’t gotten the chance to watch yet. I’ve also started exercising every day and I feel like I’m starting to finally see results. I still eat like crap, but whatever. Let me tackle one good thing at a time. LOL.

I also can finally say that I finished my two current reads; well technically I have like 50 pages left in one but it counts because I’m going to go finish it right now after I post this. I’ve been reading these same two books (Naturally Tan and Red, White & Royal Blue) for weeks now due to this reading slump. I’m so sad that this entire month I only read read three books. That’s not like me! My mind has just been elsewhere. I’m hoping that things will start looking up or that I can get out of whatever it is that I’m in in my head. I don’t even know how to classify it, because this has never happened to me before. I don’t even think I was this stressed when I was planning my wedding or even the process of buying a house. That all was a breeze compared to what I am feeling right now.

I am really hoping to finally do that picture update soon. Until then, here are my two favorite pictures that I took over the last month or so.

The first picture was when my friend and I went Pokemon hunting at Lake Mirror here in Lakeland, FL. All over Lakeland there are swans (real and fake) and this one has been my favorite that I’ve seen so far since living here. The second picture is when my family and I went to the beach. We were on a ferry when I took this picture, because we wanted to go to Caladesi Island and in order to get to the island you have to travel by ferry. I’ll have a post all about it with even more pictures soon. It was a fun time!

I think I will end this now (it’s gotten a lot longer than I thought), but hopefully I will be okay soon and you’ll see more of me soon. If I am a little MIA (missing in action), these are the reasons why. I’m still around, just not as much right now. I still try to blog hop and still try to post at least once a week if I can. It’s just harder with where my head is at and also the fact that I haven’t been reading much. Hopefully this all changes soon. Hopefully I can figure out some way to get out of my head and back to reality. Like I said, I just want to get back to my old self. I don’t like who I am lately and that’s never been the case before. I’ve always loved who I was. I’ve always been a happy person. I never let things bother me. Now it’s different and it’s really sad. I’m sad for myself, so much.

This weekend I am going to Cape Coral for my cousin’s son’s birthday party and I am really looking forward to that because I’ll get out of the house and because I’ll be able to see my family who I haven’t seen in almost a month. Do you have any plans for the weekend? What are you currently reading?

In case you missed it;
Top Ten Tuesday|| Most Anticipated Releases.
Mini Review|| Virtually Yours.

I hope you have a great day and weekend!

ashleyblack

30 thoughts on “Why I’ve Been in a Reading/Blogging Slump.

  1. First of all, so proud of you that you opened up and shared what is happening because a lot of people have gone through this, including me, and I can say stress is there an I don’t like when it appears, sneaking up and pouncing on us! I pray day and night, and eat healthier,and walk a lot to ease the stress, write, and share my pain with family and friends, plus watch my Netflix and Hulu too! Even though I never liked to hear, “This too will pass”, it’s true. Keep moving forward and maybe something is pushing you to do something different in life! Also, very proud you are getting your license! Go out and enjoy your life 🙂 Jen

  2. Ashley, I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. Job insecurity is so scary – I don’t blame you for being stressed and unable to focus on much. I’m glad they’re letting you work part time, and I hope you figure out a way to manage and find your happiness again. Money is the biggest stresser – believe me, I have been there and it’s NO fun. I hope you enjoy your weekend with family and things start to turn around for you.

    • Thank you, Brandie! I agree, job insecruity is really scary. It lingers on in the back of my mind and every so often throughout the day it’ll come to the front and I’ll be stuck fixated on thinking about it. I think that’s a lot of my problem, that I can’t stop thinking about it. Money is for sure a big stresser and even more now that we bought a house!

  3. Being stressed is awful. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I hope it gets better with time. And it is totally okay to take long breaks from reading or blogging. Take care, okay? Hope everything works out fine. Sending lots of love and virtual hugs ❤

  4. Ashley, I’m so sorry you’ve been going through this and that life has been so stressful lately, it’s completely understandable that you haven’t been feeling like yourself lately with all of it. I really hope that it will get better and I’m sending you all the positive vibes and love. Know that it’s completely okay to take breaks if needed, we’ll always be there for you when you’re back. Sending you tons of love and hugs if taken, take care of yourself, I’m always here if you need to chat. Love you tons ❤

  5. Oh my goodness, Ashley- thank you, first off, for being so transparent ❤ Second- I am sooo sorry you are dealing with this & it doesn’t sound like complaining at all- it just sounds like life- and like life is hitting ya hard right now. Just remember- this too shall pass. I know it’s one of the oldest clichés in the book, but it’s so true- and you will be yourself again. This is momentary and a season of change and confusion. I so resonate with your feelings & from being in that place which feels like there is no light at the end of the tunnel… I promise there is!!! It will get better & your life will find its footing again! Also, know that it’s ok if blogging takes a back seat. We will always be here, but as life happens sometimes you just need to do what you need to do to take care of you! I am definitely in that phase too. Feel free to reach out to me any time if you need to chat too ❤ Sending massive hugs to you, love!

  6. I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now Ash! It totally sucks. You know I pretty much went through the same thing with my last job so I know how you feel. It’s a super stressful time, that’s for sure. I’m wishing you all the luck in the world for your job!

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  8. I’m sorry it’s been so stressful lately!! All of that sounds overwhelming. Especially your computer problems, wow, that’s just so stressful! I know you need a new computer but since you’re concerned about losing your data, in the meantime did you know Google Drive & Google Photos offer free data storage for files, documents, photos, videos, etc? I think Amazon Prime also offers free photo storage.
    I bought my computer refurbished off eBay and no it isn’t the best but it hasn’t been awful either. Some places offer financing on new computers if that helps.
    Ugh so overwhelming. Hugs!

    • Thank you. Having the computer problems on top of everything else has been so extremely frustrating. I’ve started to use Google Drive to do a lot of my work now (like with the docs & sheets) versus Excel and Word. Since I can’t really afford a computer right now, I decided to buy an external hard drive to put all my pictures and stuff on it for now. Hopefully in the next month I’ll be able to finally get a new computer since my personal computer is starting to go to crap too.

      • Google Drive is my favorite thing ever! I use it for everything and actually my company is pretty cloud based, so Google Drive is how we all collaborate. And I like to keep a lot of photos, so Google Photos helps me know that they are safe but not taking up limited space. 🙂

  9. I’m so sorry you have to go through all of this and that life is so stressful lately! Sending good vibes, lots of pet cuddles and hugs your way. ❤ xx

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  12. Well all that sounds stressful and it is not a surprise that ye are having tough times. Transition sucks. I am in one too (again!) and have no idea what the future will bring. But right now I happen to be on a boat in the middle of the ocean and so I trying to savour the small things. Hope July is an improvement for ye. Arrr!
    x The Captain

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